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Real Men Feel

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This year I’ve really felt called to offer more events for men. #RealMenFeel has become the overarching theme of this movement I’m launching. I’m thrilled to let you know that there is now a Real Men Feel group on Facebook and a Real Men Feel Internet TV show.

The first episode of Real Men Feel is live on Tuesday Feb 23 at 5pm Eastern on Blab. This bi-weekly live broadcast is hosted by me, Andy Grant, and my friend, Appio Hunter.

Our first topic will be about the relationship between men and their fathers. If you aren’t familiar with Blab, it is a live broadcasting service that allows up to four people to be part of a video conversation. Viewers can watch, make comments, ask questions or even take one of the open seats, if available, and join the show. Follow this link to subscribe to catch us live or via replay. https://blab.im/andy-grant-real-men-feel-paternal-relationships-men-and-their-dads-realmenfeel

Real Men Feel Show
For those near me in Massachusetts, I’ve also launched a monthly men’s support group at Circles of Wisdom in Andover. Check it out. We meet the third Thursday of each month.

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True Love Starts With You

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Forget the chocolate and Valentine’s Day cards, it is high time you realize that true love starts with YOU.

I Love ME!When I was an angry young man, battling depression and suicidal thoughts, if anyone dared say to me – you need to love yourself – I would have laughed at them, ignored them or attacked them.

It wasn’t until years of searching for answers, for relief, and for healing following multiple attempts to end my own life that I truly understood that love indeed is the most important thing. This is true despite any notions or judgement of loving yourself as being selfish, it is actually selfless.

I can’t be happy if I don’t love myself. I can’t love someone else if I can’t stand myself. I can’t receive love from someone else if I’m not first willing to love myself. I can’t help, support or serve anybody if I don’t first love myself. This isn’t true only for me, it is also true for you. This is true for all of us.

Over the last few years I’ve seen more teachers, books, and products saying self-love is so important, but so few tell you what to do. So, here are a two simple ways to start the journey of self-love.

Be willing to allow yourself to love you. Be willing to allow you to love aspects of you that you don’t like. It may sound absurd to love your bad habits, your judgmental thoughts, your fears, your guilt, your shame, and any actions that don’t serve you, but what you resist persists. What you love has room to morph, grow and change. Choosing to love something doesn’t mean you can’t then change it. I’m asking you to be willing to allow love to be there.

Love, happiness, success… so many of our goals aren’t all or nothing. They aren’t on or off, black or white. What we desire most comes to us in degrees; it is a continuum. No matter who you are, you can love yourself more, you can be happier, you can enjoy your life more. It begins with allowing it. Be willing to love yourself. You aren’t your past. You aren’t your story. You are love. There is no aspect of you that isn’t worthy of your love.

1. Simple self-love meditation:
Close your eyes. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose and repeat these words silently in your head – “I love me. I love me. I love me.” Exhale slowly and deeply out your mouth while silently repeating – “I love me. I love me. I love me.”

Repeat this two or three times. Do it even more if you like it. If this is new for you, you may feel uncomfortable, perhaps you think you are lying. Allow that to be okay. Allow any reaction to be ok.

I’ve been doing this for years and today when I do it I truly feel my energy shift. I feel lighter in my body. I often feel a tingling in my shoulder blades. I feel an energetic up leveling occur. You can too. Play with it. As an alternate; try saying “I love me” with each inhale and again on each exhale. Discover the pattern that feels best for you.

2. Mirror Work:
Look into your own eyes in a mirror. Hold your own gaze in silence and notice what thoughts and emotions rise. Don’t analyze the thoughts. Give yourself permission to feel whatever feelings surface.

Then, looking deeply into your own eyes, say “I love you.” Repeat, “I love you, Andy” or whatever your first name is. If uncomfortable thoughts and feelings arise, be ok with that. When you declare your love of self, anything that resists that will rise up so it can leave. Celebrate the tears, the laughter, the uncomfortable feelings knowing that they are leaving you. They are leaving you only if you allow them to be felt. Love all of you.

Love your path, even if you don’t understand it. For years I thought I was broken and flawed. I was depressed. I had suicidal thoughts and believed that I was destined to die by my own hand. True healing only began when I surrendered and decided to allow myself to love me. I loved my pain, my suicide attempts, my growth, my ability to bounce back. I decided to love that I had survived multiple murder attempts. I chose to love my journey, even when it didn’t make sense to me.

Self-love has allowed me to forgive. Self-love has strengthened my faith. Self-love has let me know I was never alone. Love is the energy that connects us all. Love allows you to embrace all aspects of you. Love is why I’m still here.
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The Golden Ball of Light – a Channeled Poem

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For the second time my deceased grandmother has contacted psychic medium, Laura Emerald, to get a message to me. This one was delivered as a poem. This connection was first made almost exactly a year ago, when I found myself in a similar time of prolonged suicidal thoughts. While last year I knew I wasn’t going to act on my self-destructive thoughts (it really felt like things releasing, for good I thought), this year, I wasn’t so sure. Last month I was as close to making an attempt as I’ve been in years.

Here is the poem my Gram gifted me.

Golden Ball of EnergyThe Golden Ball of Light

Andy Dear ~ here’s a Teddy Bear
For you to hold when feeling fear.

When you are sad, feeling alone and the world not right,
Think of me, your Gram, filling you with golden light.

Imagine a ball, big, and huge with love
That fills your head with sunshine from above.

Now Andy I am watching you
and know you’re testing spirits too…

I think you need a new measuring stick
to determine your self worth extremely quick!

For Andy ~ You are the I AM ~ Truly You ARE
And you’re seeking something external~thinking it’s far!

When in fact Andy, what you seek is on the inside
Your cells and soul~ You are God and from that you can’t hide.

So I ask you now to hold a mirror up
And know that what you see is a God hologram ~ Yup!

You feel this to be true but it turns your world upside down…
Realizing the Divine is YOU ~ means honoring your Body, Mind, and Soul this time ’round.

Andy Dear, I so want you to be happy
but I can’t give you that  or I would ~ yes, it’s sappy.

But I can tell you to make this your Wayne Dyer Year!
Listen to all of his writings, internalize it, and let go of your fear!

The world needs your light and your work’s not done
So please my dear, set aside thoughts of going dark and on the run.

Band together with your Spirit Guides, and ask the Angels for help too
and know that I’m seeing your heart true.

Please let me leave you with this thought,
You are like a Domino and your actions aren’t for naught.

Your actions have ripples and make people think
YOU are a positive impact so step back from the brink.

Your end is not to be a domino slide down a hole
Leaving your loved ones wondering and blaming their role.

Go out in Glory with your body old and weary
And loved ones honoring you all weepy and teary.

Let your Accomplishments pile high
Your life an inspiration…

Note: The poem is intentionally unfinished because my Gram says my life, my work, and my time on Earth is not finished.

Laura has recently released a short book of channeled poetry. She tells me she’s not a poet at all, but that is how Spirit communicates on occasion. Check out We Are Here: Whispers of Love from Laura Emerald.

Deep Density Detox, Part 1

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This month I decided to embark on an energetic and emotional cleanse with Panache Desai known as a Deep Density Detox. It is just 8 days long with some morning and evening meditations, group calls and daily video training from Panache. When I saw the video invite to this program a few weeks ago, I was immediately in tears and knew it was something I was needing. I decided it would be cool to do a daily video. Once I started however, creating a video diary did not feel like such a cool thing, but I stuck with it.

Here are the first 4 days of my journey.

Day 1, Oct 19, 2015. Terror and wanting to be liked.

Day 2, Oct 20, 2015. I am not my stories nor am I my past experiences.

Day 3, Oct 21, 2015. Dissolving limited beliefs.

Day 4, Oct 22, 2015. Detaching from drama.

Being fully conscious – or at least attempting to be – is no pleasure cruise. I trust that my open sharing somehow serves you in your personal growth.
Be good to yourself,
Andy

Loving Yourself When You Don’t Like Yourself

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A few years ago I made a video that shared what I believe is the true reason behind most suicide attempts, a lack of self-love. During many times of depression and desperation, I cursed and blamed things outside of me. I also cursed and blamed myself. I thought that I hated myself and that is why I wanted to die. Actually, I hated how I felt. I hated my own thoughts.

As my own spiritual awareness has grown over the years I sometimes find it difficult to remember what it was like when I wasn’t willing to love myself. This is common anytime we learn something new, eventually we forget what life was like before we developed the new understanding, skill or insight. Internet marketer, Jeff Walker, refers to this as the Curse of Knowledge.

Liking me and loving me are different. I did not always realize that. There are still plenty of times that I don’t like me — to be more specific, I’m referring to moments when I don’t like what I’m thinking, feeling, or doing. It could be what I’m doing to myself or to other people. I may be acting out in ways I thought I was beyond, or having thoughts I was sure I that I was done with long ago. I am bigger than me. “Me” is this human being known as Andy Grant, who can still get caught up in judgment, negative self-talk, and patterns that don’t support me. I, or I AM, is the bigger version of me, my spiritual aspect or my Higher Self if you are familiar with that term. Even when I don’t like me, especially when I don’t like me, it is vitally important that I’m willing to love me. I’m willing to love this crazy life,  my own brain and habits. Just being willing brings me a sense of peace I never used to have when I thought I was my thoughts, feelings and actions.

We can all love ourselves even when we don’t like particularly like us. I find that allowing the broader perspective of love melts away the insistence that whatever shitty thing I’m going through will be the way it is always.  When I’m willing to love my challenges, my setbacks, my growth… ALL of it, I can exhale and everything is easier. You can hate what you’re doing or what you’re thinking, but still love you. We do it all the time with pets and children. They do something you don’t like, something you may hate and scream and shout about. But you still love them. Give that gift to you, too.

When you don’t like yourself, when you don’t like what you are thinking, feeling or doing – be willing to love yourself anyway. Love your contradictions. Love your chaos. Love that an old scab has been picked off. Love that there is still healing to be done. Be willing to love that you keep going. Be willing to be amazed at your own resilience, growth and perseverance. Be willing to love that there is still work to do, for if there wasn’t you wouldn’t be here.

Unconditional love means that I love me, even when I don’t love what I’m thinking, feeling, or doing. And that is the greatest gift, the greatest skill, the greatest habit anyone can develop. The best part is that we are all capable of developing it. And we are all worthy of that love, too.

Unconditional Love