Accepting What Is

Accepting What IsEach morning I pull a couple of Oracle Cards and post one to Instagram and Facebook. This morning it was, Accepting What Is, and it connected with me even more than usual. My family is dealing with a number of health issues and I’ve been witnessing acceptance in others and in myself on a daily basis.

My father has been on a slow mental and physical decline for a decade or so. His dementia and physical degradation have picked up speed in the past couple weeks which coincides with his wife going in and out of the hospital twice this month dealing with her own health and pain issues. They have both had to accept needing help, something they’ve resisted for a long time. Fortunately, they have support via insurance, their own finances, and nearby friends and family as well.

Two days ago my wife and I accompanied my dad to visit his wife in the hospital. He needs a wheelchair to get around the hospital these days and he nearly fell every time he tried to get in or out of it as well as in or out of the car. I had to help him go to the bathroom, a first for us both, and it was all I could do to be present and truly helpful and not just mentally checkout and disappear.

Yesterday he decided to find out if he could still drive or not. At our urging it had been a couple weeks since he’d been behind the wheel. The short drive he took scared the shit out of him as he came close to multiple accidents, he later reported. For the first time he’s accepted his driving days are over. Of course the challenge will be, does he remember that tomorrow? When he got back home to an empty house following his wild ride yesterday afternoon, he fell. It took him 90 minutes to get himself back up. That has ended his arguments of not needing someone there all the time. He no longer can track the day or time. He can no longer be trusted to take his medication on his own, and we’ve had to call in help to be with him at night and soon now expand it to 24×7.

Even knowing his mental state, it is still very difficult for me to not listen to him, to not believe him, to not trust him. That is what I must accept. I can no longer be the good son who does what his father asks. He no longer knows what is in his, or anyone else’s’, best interest. He can no longer be trusted or believed. That has been the most difficult, and unexpected, part for me.

I’m sure some men are very good care takers and comfort providers, but I am not. I want to run, and ignore this all. I thank God on an hourly basis for my wife, Lori, who has been going to his house every day for the last few weeks. Being a care taker is something that comes naturally to her, plus she doesn’t have the baggage of growing up with this man weighing on things too.

This is the message on the Accepting What Is card.
It is an act of both power and faith to love, honor, and accept what is. At times it can be challenging to truly accept what’s occurring in your life. When you do so, however, you affirm that there’s a plan for your life and that everything is working for your highest good. Accepting “what is” doesn’t mean that you can’t work to change it, because you can. It does mean that there is gentle, yet profound, awareness that every experience can support your highest good and spiritual evolution.
If there is something you just can’t accept, start by gently acknowledging the fact that you can’t accept it. As you increase your own acceptance in life, this will help others be at peace in their own lives.”
Acceptance. It can be a real bitch.

Blabbing about Real Men Feel with Shawna Pelton

Last week I was the guest of metaphysical healer and coach, Shawna Pelton, on her weekly Blab show. We had a fun discussion and talked about my Real Men Feel movement and To Be A Man workshops.

Check Shawna out at ShawnaPelton.com and join the Real Men Feel Facebook group.

Be sure and catch my weekly Real Men Feel shows too.

If you problems watching here, try this link blab.im/shawna-pelton-real-men-feel-a-talk-with-coach-andy-grant

To Be A Man: Live Workshop in Andover MA on May 6

What does it mean to be a man? Have you ever taken some time to ponder that?

Are you living your own definition of being a man or someone else’s?

Do you sometimes wonder if you are a “real” man or what that term even means?

Too many men I meet say they don’t have a place or a friend to talk to about what is really important to them; their goals, their fears… whatever it might be. If you ever wished you had a place to share your fears, stresses and worries with other men, this is your chance.
Join me Friday, May 6 at Circles of Wisdom and explore what it means To Be A Man.

To Be A Man
Friday, May 6, 2016 from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM (EST)
Circles of Wisdom
457 Great Road
Andover, MA

Register Here


7:00 pm-9:00 pm Workshop
$30

“What a great class! Tackled the tough topics…Andy has a way of simplifying things and motivating his audience. I applaud his “guts” for getting a group of men together, taking on such topics, and helping us feel more hu- man.”

Real Men Support Each Other

King of Authenticity

One of my absolute favorite things is doing Akashic Records readings. In fact, I’ve just gotten home from a two-day advanced class on Healing Through the Akashic Records. The work I did on myself this weekend confirmed the importance of authenticity to me, as well as how important being authentic is to all the work I do with my clients.

At the end of 2015 I was getting lots on intuitive hits, and messages in the Akashic Records, about creating programs and events for men. Out of the initial musings came a workshop I call, To Be A Man, and the phrase “Real Men Feel” which has since become a Facebook group and weekly Blab show.

What does it mean to be authentic? The definition is; not false or copied; genuine; real.

For me, being inauthentic means being afraid to be who I really am, feel what I feel, and express what I think. I now see that my inability to be authentic, to share what I felt and thought, was a root cause of my depression and suicidal thoughts while growing up.

I also see why as I step into owning and embodying my authenticity more and more that I’m called to support men more. Men are taught many things – most of them are about playing a role, putting on masks, faking it, being anything but genuine, real, and authentic. At the foundation of Real Men Feel is permission for every man to be their authentic selves. Being a “real man” doesn’t mean acting like anyone else. It means being you.

CrownThere was another term I received in my records a few months ago that I’m finally ready to own too. I hereby dub myself; The King of Authenticity. Your worship is not required, but you are certainly encouraged to follow my lead and be authentically you.

My wedding was a costume party and I was a medieval king. So even before I was consciously stepping into my authenticity, I was dressing the part.

Wedding

To Be A Man: Live Workshop in Acton Mass

What does it mean to be a man? Have you ever taken some time to ponder that?

Are you living your own definition of being a man or someone else’s?

Do you sometimes wonder if you are a “real” man or what that term even means?

Too many men I meet say they don’t have a place or a friend to talk to about what is really important to them; their goals, their fears… whatever it might be. If you ever wished you had a place to share your fears, stresses and worries with other men, this is your chance.

To Be A Man
Tuesday, March 15, 2016 from 7:00 PM to 9:00 PM (EST)
The Sanctuary of Acton
1 on 1 Self Indulgence Spa
457 Great Road
Acton, MA 01720


7:00 pm-9:00 pm Workshop
$30 if you pre-register/
$35 if you pay at the door




“What a great class! Tackled the tough topics…Andy has a way of simplifying things and motivating his audience. I applaud his “guts” for getting a group of men together, taking on such topics, and helping us feel more hu- man.”

Real Men Support Each Other