Men’s Monthly Spiritual Support Group at Circles of Wisdom, Andover MA

Being a man these days can be confusing and contradictory. Being a man on a personal growth or spiritual path can make it even more challenging. Are you looking for a safe place where growth-minded men can share and get support? A place without judgment, bullying, or masks?

Do you long for a community of men that centers around more than beer, sports, or putting people down?


The Men’s Spiritual Support Group is for men to share wins and challenges on their quest for personal growth and deepening spirituality. This isn’t about any specific dogma, beliefs or religion. It is for men who realize they are more than their flesh and blood bodies, they are more than a gender. This group is for you, wherever you may be in your path to awakening to even more.

I am thrilled to lead this monthly gathering at Circles of Wisdom in Andover, Ma with others who are willing to feel, to share and to grow. Meetings are the 3rd Thursday of each month and will include meditations, discussion, and sharing.

I’ve also created a new group on Facebook that people anywhere can be part of –


Real Men Support Each Other

True Love Starts With You

Forget the chocolate and Valentine’s Day cards, it is high time you realize that true love starts with YOU.

I Love ME!When I was an angry young man, battling depression and suicidal thoughts, if anyone dared say to me – you need to love yourself – I would have laughed at them, ignored them or attacked them.

It wasn’t until years of searching for answers, for relief, and for healing following multiple attempts to end my own life that I truly understood that love indeed is the most important thing. This is true despite any notions or judgement of loving yourself as being selfish, it is actually selfless.

I can’t be happy if I don’t love myself. I can’t love someone else if I can’t stand myself. I can’t receive love from someone else if I’m not first willing to love myself. I can’t help, support or serve anybody if I don’t first love myself. This isn’t true only for me, it is also true for you. This is true for all of us.

Over the last few years I’ve seen more teachers, books, and products saying self-love is so important, but so few tell you what to do. So, here are a two simple ways to start the journey of self-love.

Be willing to allow yourself to love you. Be willing to allow you to love aspects of you that you don’t like. It may sound absurd to love your bad habits, your judgmental thoughts, your fears, your guilt, your shame, and any actions that don’t serve you, but what you resist persists. What you love has room to morph, grow and change. Choosing to love something doesn’t mean you can’t then change it. I’m asking you to be willing to allow love to be there.

Love, happiness, success… so many of our goals aren’t all or nothing. They aren’t on or off, black or white. What we desire most comes to us in degrees; it is a continuum. No matter who you are, you can love yourself more, you can be happier, you can enjoy your life more. It begins with allowing it. Be willing to love yourself. You aren’t your past. You aren’t your story. You are love. There is no aspect of you that isn’t worthy of your love.

1. Simple self-love meditation:
Close your eyes. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose and repeat these words silently in your head – “I love me. I love me. I love me.” Exhale slowly and deeply out your mouth while silently repeating – “I love me. I love me. I love me.”

Repeat this two or three times. Do it even more if you like it. If this is new for you, you may feel uncomfortable, perhaps you think you are lying. Allow that to be okay. Allow any reaction to be ok.

I’ve been doing this for years and today when I do it I truly feel my energy shift. I feel lighter in my body. I often feel a tingling in my shoulder blades. I feel an energetic up leveling occur. You can too. Play with it. As an alternate; try saying “I love me” with each inhale and again on each exhale. Discover the pattern that feels best for you.

2. Mirror Work:
Look into your own eyes in a mirror. Hold your own gaze in silence and notice what thoughts and emotions rise. Don’t analyze the thoughts. Give yourself permission to feel whatever feelings surface.

Then, looking deeply into your own eyes, say “I love you.” Repeat, “I love you, Andy” or whatever your first name is. If uncomfortable thoughts and feelings arise, be ok with that. When you declare your love of self, anything that resists that will rise up so it can leave. Celebrate the tears, the laughter, the uncomfortable feelings knowing that they are leaving you. They are leaving you only if you allow them to be felt. Love all of you.

Love your path, even if you don’t understand it. For years I thought I was broken and flawed. I was depressed. I had suicidal thoughts and believed that I was destined to die by my own hand. True healing only began when I surrendered and decided to allow myself to love me. I loved my pain, my suicide attempts, my growth, my ability to bounce back. I decided to love that I had survived multiple murder attempts. I chose to love my journey, even when it didn’t make sense to me.

Self-love has allowed me to forgive. Self-love has strengthened my faith. Self-love has let me know I was never alone. Love is the energy that connects us all. Love allows you to embrace all aspects of you. Love is why I’m still here.

Action Cures Fear

Last night I had the honor of leading a workshop called, To Be A Man, which explored the often confusing and contradictory messages about being a man today, and just what the hell does being a “real” man even mean. A few months ago I began having this nudge to do something specifically for men. In early November, 2015, I was at an event talking to people about my Energy Coaching and Akashic Records Readings and began chatting with a woman and I mentioned feeling called to do more with men. On the spot she asked me to come speak at her art gallery, Blue Wave Fine Art Gallery, as part of a speaker series she was putting together for 2016. The voice of fear in my head was saying “NO! I have no idea what I’d say, this is just some crazy half an idea so far”, but I chose to say yes.

As the evening began last night, it didn’t seem that anyone was coming. I was fine with that. I was telling Asia, the gallery owner, how grateful I was for the opportunity. It gave me the reason to create the content I was presenting, to make a Real Men Feel Facebook group and launch a monthly Men’s Spiritual Support Group at Circles of Wisdom. As a speaker who relies on vulnerability and speaks from the heart – having nobody show-up is not a fear of mine. A non-existent audience is my comfort zone.

As the time to begin arrived, three brave souls were there to listen, to share and to be open to more. I presented my views and experiences of being a man. I did my best to model the authenticity that I believe is key to anyone living a happy and engaging life. Everyone shared – more than I dared to hope for. We talked and explored for 2 1/2 hours.

Fear could have stopped this from happening at so many points. Action cures fear. Please listen to the nudges you get in your life. Your authenticity could be the very gift someone else is in dire need of. Be authentically you.

I have no idea where this men’s initiative will take me, but I’m willing to go there.

Be authentically you.

Loving Yourself When You Don’t Like Yourself

A few years ago I made a video that shared what I believe is the true reason behind most suicide attempts, a lack of self-love. During many times of depression and desperation, I cursed and blamed things outside of me. I also cursed and blamed myself. I thought that I hated myself and that is why I wanted to die. Actually, I hated how I felt. I hated my own thoughts.

As my own spiritual awareness has grown over the years I sometimes find it difficult to remember what it was like when I wasn’t willing to love myself. This is common anytime we learn something new, eventually we forget what life was like before we developed the new understanding, skill or insight. Internet marketer, Jeff Walker, refers to this as the Curse of Knowledge.

Liking me and loving me are different. I did not always realize that. There are still plenty of times that I don’t like me — to be more specific, I’m referring to moments when I don’t like what I’m thinking, feeling, or doing. It could be what I’m doing to myself or to other people. I may be acting out in ways I thought I was beyond, or having thoughts I was sure I that I was done with long ago. I am bigger than me. “Me” is this human being known as Andy Grant, who can still get caught up in judgment, negative self-talk, and patterns that don’t support me. I, or I AM, is the bigger version of me, my spiritual aspect or my Higher Self if you are familiar with that term. Even when I don’t like me, especially when I don’t like me, it is vitally important that I’m willing to love me. I’m willing to love this crazy life,  my own brain and habits. Just being willing brings me a sense of peace I never used to have when I thought I was my thoughts, feelings and actions.

We can all love ourselves even when we don’t like particularly like us. I find that allowing the broader perspective of love melts away the insistence that whatever shitty thing I’m going through will be the way it is always.  When I’m willing to love my challenges, my setbacks, my growth… ALL of it, I can exhale and everything is easier. You can hate what you’re doing or what you’re thinking, but still love you. We do it all the time with pets and children. They do something you don’t like, something you may hate and scream and shout about. But you still love them. Give that gift to you, too.

When you don’t like yourself, when you don’t like what you are thinking, feeling or doing – be willing to love yourself anyway. Love your contradictions. Love your chaos. Love that an old scab has been picked off. Love that there is still healing to be done. Be willing to love that you keep going. Be willing to be amazed at your own resilience, growth and perseverance. Be willing to love that there is still work to do, for if there wasn’t you wouldn’t be here.

Unconditional love means that I love me, even when I don’t love what I’m thinking, feeling, or doing. And that is the greatest gift, the greatest skill, the greatest habit anyone can develop. The best part is that we are all capable of developing it. And we are all worthy of that love, too.

Unconditional Love

Enough Is Enough

Do you ever feel like not matter what you do, it isn’t enough? Do you ever feel like you aren’t enough?
I woke up today feeling a whole lot of “not enoughness.”

Thank you so much to Project Positive Change founder, Leigh Daniel, Lori Grant and our five amazing guest speakers: Brad Hudson, Dena Gould, Sally Hendrick and Gary Keil for creating such a powerful weekend of business development and personal growth. For those who bought the livestream, you have replay access for the rest of October!
When you transform yourself, you transform your business.

Special shout out to Lori Grant, for not only helping me through my “not enoughness” but for an amazing 20 years together. I love you!

Everything is perfect