Releasing Our Fears

When something is troubling you, have you ever heard advice like release it; let it go, and wonder how? Or maybe you have kids still running around the house singing “Let if Go” from Frozen and wish they would let that go.
FearI sometimes forget how easy it is to release a thought, a fear, a doubt. We are taught to think things through, analyze, contemplate and rarely to share. I was recently spinning in my head, triggered and upset with fears of the future, fears of what will I do next, where will money come from, what do I want for my life – and I focused on all the times I’ve had these thoughts and that they should all be figured out and settled by now. I was ashamed of what I was thinking and how I was feeling. That didn’t help. I got upset. Verge of tears. I halfheartedly attempted to resolve it with some meditation and sitting outside, but it still kept circling in my head.
It wasn’t until I spoke to another human being that the release happened. It didn’t happen while I rambled on trying to explain how I felt and what was going on. It happened when I stated the driving fear out loud. “I’m afraid I’m letting people down.” It was pointed out to me that I’m not letting anyone down. ah, the fear is I’m going to. “I’m afraid I’m going to let people down.”
And with that…. the stress, the tight throat, the misery vanished. Wow.
There is freedom when you speak your fear. There is a release of your shame when you let it escape your head. You stop the seemingly never-ending rumination. As that fear, that energy, leaves you and sees the light of day, it dissolves. Hearing it out loud, having that energy outside of my body, I could see and feel that it was nonsense. There was nothing there except the mental anguish I was putting into it.
So please, whatever is troubling you, whatever you are fearing… state it, share it, speak it out loud to someone so you can feel that freedom.


Fear of Knowing

Time for another round of Sharing with Andy!

What are you most afraid of others knowing about you? In this video I show you how to solve such fears.

Action cures fear. Are you ready to speak or share your fear?

Courage is knowing what not to fear. -Plato


Attention Veterans: I’m Here to Help

Veteran’s Day in the United States seems a fitting time to share that I’ve been feeling called to work with and help military veterans suffering with depression, anxiety and PTSD.

I don’t know what it is like to be shot at, but I do know what it is like to think you are better off dead.
I do know we are all more powerful than we realize.
I do know that this world is full of far too many options and opportunities for anyone to be taking their own life.

I know that sometimes the bravest thing to do is continue breathing.
I know what it takes to press on with staying alive when your own mind keeps saying “don’t bother.”

I don’t believe in being a good patient (staying quiet and just doing what you’re told when you’re not getting results).
I don’t believe everything is cured by a pill.

I believe you aren’t broken. I believe you don’t need fixing.
I believe you can be happy, regardless of any past experience or current temporary circumstances.
Everyone deserves to enjoy their life. I know this is why I am here.

I’m actively looking to speak to veterans groups about my experiences surmounting depression and suicidal thoughts. I am willing to speak, lead workshops, and teach the alternative, energy-based tools that have served me so well. Together with my wife Lori we can help military families – or any family dealing with a depressed or suicidal loved one.

If you would like me to work with your group or organization, let me know.
If you know of an organization I could reach out to, let me know.
Thanks for your support and service,


Two Free Webinars This Month: Personal Power, Boundaries & Life Purpose

Lori and I had such a great experience with our full-day event, Master Your Personal Power, that we are doing it again on December 6th, get all the details here, but we also wanted to find a way to serve those of you who don’t live near us and couldn’t make a live in-person event.

To celebrate YOU, we are teaching two FREE, Live Webinars this month! Check out each video below and register for one or both. If you register you’ll have access to the replay, so even if you can’t make it live – sign  up today!

Boundaries, Triggers & Personal Power
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Life Purpose Profiles: Thursday November, 20th at 8pm Eastern
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Two Free Live Webinars

The Power and Fear of Asking

Do You Have Trouble Asking For What You Want?

I don’t mean simple things like “pass the gravy” or asking somebody to do their job at work. I’m referring to asking the people closest to you to do something for you.

As you may know, I’ve written two books dealing with affirmations and I use them daily. Positive affirmations were a great tool in helping me move from depression to joy; in transforming myself from someone who thought life sucked to someone who loves life.

There is one particular affirmation that I write down and say out loud daily – often multiple times each day. That affirmations is: The most important thing today is that I feel good. I got this from Abraham Hicks and added it to my daily practices when I was really struggling with suicidal thoughts a few years ago. I wanted, no, I NEEDED to remind myself that I had the power to choose to feel good, to choose what I wanted to focus on.

Last week after a few gloomy mornings (internally and externally) I was writing, “The most important thing today is that I feel good,” but not feeling it. I thought I need a sign, not an earth-shattering Sign From God (though I’d welcome that), but an image so I can see this message of feeling good too. I decided to ask my wife – who has recently been enjoying painting – to make me something.

I walked down the hall to the kitchen to ask her and my throat constricted rapidly as I felt a wave of unnamed emotion rise. I said “I want to…  Can I as…” I had stop and allow a second of tears and a gasp/sob sort of release before I could continue. Lori was looking at me and preparing for some major, life-impacting statement. Finally I speak, “Can I ask you to paint me something? I’d love something that says “feel good.”

She smiled and said of course then added, “Do you think you might have trouble asking?”

Wow – I honestly never thought I did. But in that moment I realized that for years I wouldn’t ask for help, not thinking I was worthy of it, but even now – to ask my wife to create something for me… resistance is an amazing thing. It only took my a second to feel it and push through, but how often have I hit that resistance, felt some emotion – probably a level of fear – and decided not to ask? Countless times.

How about you? If this resonates with you, find a way to practice asking for what you want.
Don’t concern yourself with the response, just practice asking.

Feel Good by Lori Grant

Feel Good by Lori Grant