Releasing Our Fears
Veteran’s Day in the United States seems a fitting time to share that I’ve been feeling called to work with and help military veterans suffering with depression, anxiety and PTSD.
I don’t know what it is like to be shot at, but I do know what it is like to think you are better off dead.
I do know we are all more powerful than we realize.
I do know that this world is full of far too many options and opportunities for anyone to be taking their own life.
I know that sometimes the bravest thing to do is continue breathing.
I know what it takes to press on with staying alive when your own mind keeps saying “don’t bother.”
I don’t believe in being a good patient (staying quiet and just doing what you’re told when you’re not getting results).
I don’t believe everything is cured by a pill.
I believe you aren’t broken. I believe you don’t need fixing.
I believe you can be happy, regardless of any past experience or current temporary circumstances.
Everyone deserves to enjoy their life. I know this is why I am here.
I’m actively looking to speak to veterans groups about my experiences surmounting depression and suicidal thoughts. I am willing to speak, lead workshops, and teach the alternative, energy-based tools that have served me so well. Together with my wife Lori we can help military families – or any family dealing with a depressed or suicidal loved one.
Lori and I had such a great experience with our full-day event, Master Your Personal Power, that we are doing it again on December 6th, get all the details here, but we also wanted to find a way to serve those of you who don’t live near us and couldn’t make a live in-person event.
To celebrate YOU, we are teaching two FREE, Live Webinars this month! Check out each video below and register for one or both. If you register you’ll have access to the replay, so even if you can’t make it live – sign up today!
Boundaries, Triggers & Personal Power
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Life Purpose Profiles: Thursday November, 20th at 8pm Eastern
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I don’t mean simple things like “pass the gravy” or asking somebody to do their job at work. I’m referring to asking the people closest to you to do something for you.
As you may know, I’ve written two books dealing with affirmations and I use them daily. Positive affirmations were a great tool in helping me move from depression to joy; in transforming myself from someone who thought life sucked to someone who loves life.
There is one particular affirmation that I write down and say out loud daily – often multiple times each day. That affirmations is: The most important thing today is that I feel good. I got this from Abraham Hicks and added it to my daily practices when I was really struggling with suicidal thoughts a few years ago. I wanted, no, I NEEDED to remind myself that I had the power to choose to feel good, to choose what I wanted to focus on.
Last week after a few gloomy mornings (internally and externally) I was writing, “The most important thing today is that I feel good,” but not feeling it. I thought I need a sign, not an earth-shattering Sign From God (though I’d welcome that), but an image so I can see this message of feeling good too. I decided to ask my wife – who has recently been enjoying painting – to make me something.
I walked down the hall to the kitchen to ask her and my throat constricted rapidly as I felt a wave of unnamed emotion rise. I said “I want to… Can I as…” I had stop and allow a second of tears and a gasp/sob sort of release before I could continue. Lori was looking at me and preparing for some major, life-impacting statement. Finally I speak, “Can I ask you to paint me something? I’d love something that says “feel good.”
She smiled and said of course then added, “Do you think you might have trouble asking?”
Wow – I honestly never thought I did. But in that moment I realized that for years I wouldn’t ask for help, not thinking I was worthy of it, but even now – to ask my wife to create something for me… resistance is an amazing thing. It only took my a second to feel it and push through, but how often have I hit that resistance, felt some emotion – probably a level of fear – and decided not to ask? Countless times.
How about you? If this resonates with you, find a way to practice asking for what you want.
Don’t concern yourself with the response, just practice asking.